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Why stress makes you a bad friend to your future self
Nobody has ever answered “If you only had twelve months to live, what would you do?” with “Get on top of my inbox.” Or “nurse a grudge.” Or “argue with strangers on X.” It’s one of the classic coaching questions, along with its cousin: if time and money were no barrier, what would you do with your time and attention? Both reliably produce the same mindstate. People sit back, breathe out, and get very clear, very quickly, about what matters to them. The mind opens, we get more creative, and problems that seemed insurmountable start to look surmountable. What these questions are really doing is putting you in conversation with
LATEST
Why stress makes you a bad friend to your future self
Nobody has ever answered “If you only had twelve months to live, what would you do?” with “Get on top of my inbox.” Or “nurse a grudge.” Or “argue with strangers on X.” It’s one of the classic coaching questions, along with its cousin: if time and money were no barrier, what would you do with your time and attention? Both reliably produce the same mindstate. People sit back, breathe out, and get very clear, very quickly, about what matters to them. The mind opens, we get more creative, and problems that seemed insurmountable start to look surmountable. What these questions are really doing is putting you in conversation with
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“Why Should I?” Part 1
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