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What have you done for me lately
Many managers I’ve worked with have experienced a version of this soulless feelingless transactional interaction. The: “what have you done for me lately?” “Hey, fantastic month, great result. Now, what have you got for next month?” Or, “That was a great piece of work well done, here’s a bonus and thanks, but…… what have you done for me lately?” I know of one business who hit record sales. They had their busiest month ever in June, then backed it up in July. Record sales that automatically become the new normal, the new benchmark. It is never enough. Relentless, remorseless, heartless. Like walking up a down escalator that keeps accelerating. Look
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What have you done for me lately
Many managers I’ve worked with have experienced a version of this soulless feelingless transactional interaction. The: “what have you done for me lately?” “Hey, fantastic month, great result. Now, what have you got for next month?” Or, “That was a great piece of work well done, here’s a bonus and thanks, but…… what have you done for me lately?” I know of one business who hit record sales. They had their busiest month ever in June, then backed it up in July. Record sales that automatically become the new normal, the new benchmark. It is never enough. Relentless, remorseless, heartless. Like walking up a down escalator that keeps accelerating. Look
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