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What the good teams have in common (it’s a shorter list than you’d think)
Last week’s Ataraxy Friday was about the Anna Karenina Principle: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” There are endless ways for things to go wrong and only a few ways for them to go right. Chasing down every way it could go wrong is exhausting, while building the few things that go right is simpler. This week I want to follow that thread more fully into leadership teams, because my industry has a habit of doing it the hard way. There are thousands of profiling tools, diagnostics and leadership models out there. Some are blunt and some are forensic. Many of them
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What the good teams have in common (it’s a shorter list than you’d think)
Last week’s Ataraxy Friday was about the Anna Karenina Principle: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” There are endless ways for things to go wrong and only a few ways for them to go right. Chasing down every way it could go wrong is exhausting, while building the few things that go right is simpler. This week I want to follow that thread more fully into leadership teams, because my industry has a habit of doing it the hard way. There are thousands of profiling tools, diagnostics and leadership models out there. Some are blunt and some are forensic. Many of them
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Comparison Corrodes
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Life objectively good
Those two orange circles up there are the same size. I know it, you know it, and your eyes still don’t believe it. Surround something with bigger things and it shrinks. Surround it with smaller things and it grows. Your brain isn’t broken — it just refuses to

Nothing to Nothing is No Time At All
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The Smartest Person in the Room
The smartest person in most rooms he walked into. Technically brilliant. His organisation knew his value — and so did he. But it wasn’t enough. He’d been passed over for promotion. His numbers weren’t where they needed to be. When I first met ___, he

Owning Your Impact
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The Man I was, killed the man I wanted to be
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All the Drag You Cannot See
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Australian Leaders: More worry less happy
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Mental Fitness Matters….. for other people
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Push Fall Reset Repeat
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I fire them and get better people
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Fisherman’s Dilemma Part 2
Size doesn’t matter – Climate and The Fisherman’s dilemma Last week I wrote about the Fisherman’s dilemma. How acting in self-interest is self-defeating. Let’s apply it to something real, large, and present — climate change policy. Specifically, one of the

Fisherman’s Dilemma Part 1
Panic buying fuel? Toilet paper? Why? Why do people do it? We know why. It is obvious why. I’m surprised it is surprising. It is in their self-interest to do so. It is — by any reasonable definition — the

Argument Loading
There’s a moment we all know too well. Someone says something—your mother-in-law, your uncle, that colleague—and you feel an argument loading. You’re tired, they’re tired, there is pressure, everyone’s dialled up, and you’re about to say the thing you’ll regret.

Assume Better Intent
A client of mine, a Senior Manager in a national corporate role, often comes away from meetings with the sense that some participants are almost deliberately undermining the outcome. You know the feeling – someone keeps raising objections, poking holes,
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